I first met my childrens father when i was 16 yrs old and he was 33 yrs old. We had 3 kids. A girl that died at birth and then 2 boys who are now 12, 11. We split up and i had the boys till they were 3 and 4. I had got married and that marraige was not very good from the start. My ex-husband had kicked my oldest boy in the leg so i had to report it. He was arrested and jailed. But i was trying to work it out so i aloud him to come and visit and DSS did an unannounced visit and cought him there at the house. Because i vialoted an order of protection i was arrested for endangering the welfare of a child and charged with neglict in family court.
So i was forced to give custody to their father who is Daniel Cherry Sr. That was the start of the biggest mistake of my life. I put in the petition that he was to have the kids till i could be the mother that i need to be. I have done everything that DSS asked of me to do. (anger management, many parenting classes, mental health evaluation) just to mention a few things. I had every other weekend visition of the kids but had them every weekend. My ex- husband even did everything DSS asked him to do. But at that point Dan did everything he could to keep my husband away from the kids. So i had to have supervised visits. That went on for about 1 yrs or so. Dan even petition me back to court saying i slapped the youngest in the face. My visits were supervised at that time mind you. No matter what i do im always wrong in his eyes.
I have sinced divorced and have been out of that situation for 3 yrs now. I have moved out of the area. The best thing i could have ever done. I have got remarried. And have been next month for 2 yrs. now. But my current husban and i had moved back there to Batavia so i could seen more of the boys. But Dan just pushes me away from the boys and tells me to go back where we came from. So neither of us could find a job there in Batavia so we did move back home. Then i hear im a now good mother and i chose a man over my boys. This is a no win situation.
So now i have unsupervised visits and dont see the boys much at all. Dan makes it so hard. After every visit he takes me back to court for something or another. He wants to say they have no family...but he makes it that way for them. My family dont see the boys cause he is always slandering me to them and they dont wanna hear it. I dont get the kids on their birthdays or till late on the holiday when the days is almost over. They dont call me unless they want money. Or need something. I would do anything for the boys.
I love them so much and want more to do with them but Dan just pushes me away, and says that hes a single father and has no help but he made it that way...Does he want a medal or a chest to pin it on. These boys have been robbed of there childhood and cant just be kids. When we get them we get them new clothes but the oldest wont were them cause he dont wanna get them dirty. Dad will yell at him. I dont care go jump in a mud puddle. Thats what theres soap and water for. They even know how many foodstamps come into their house and how much the bills are. Children dont need to know that, thats the parents business..CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE. And they dont have a good example in life. Dans mother told me the reason she dont have nothing to do with the boys, its cause she dont want the heart ache of watching Dan destroy the boys. Little does she know thats what has happened.
We have a different way of life here where i live. You walk into the DSS building its empty. Why??? People know how to work here. My boys are not even gonna have good work ethics cause they dont have the role model in their life. And thats very sad. Every parent should want their children to do better than them. I have asked the boys do you ever want to come live with mom and i get told no. I dont know why but they dont.
As far as In God We Trust being in the court room....they court system dont trust in god one bit..cause if they did they wouldnt pass judgement on others. i know i screwed up in life. But i have made my wrongs right to this day...I have paid my time for what i have done. I have enough of a reminder when i dont have the boys to put to bed at night or to wake up to in the morning. Thats enough for any mother to wake up.
I just want to have my boys back to show them a real life and not be on the system all their life cause thats all they know... My husband works about 50 hrs a week. We just bought our first home and have a 3 month old baby boy that will know a real life and not be afraid of work. What is this world coming to?? All the boys are to him is his money maker from welfare...
He has made his lifew what it is. Everybody has trials and tribulation everyday.
Genesee County Court needs to trust in God if they are gonna have that on the wall.
